Thinker : Reverence : Pray to Friends
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I had a dream last night with a few of my best girlfriends and their families from high school. I remember, in the turning point of the dream, I gave one girl a tight huge and told her "I miss my family". I was full of deep sorrow and tears.

The dream is true and not only literally. When I said "family", I also meant the profound family of my being, my gods, my own Self, my deep consciousness, and all the rest that is me. I miss all these things, people and beings because I am separated from them. I am isolated. My conscious awareness is shallow and mostly trivial. My awareness barely reaches under the skin of my Being. My awareness keeps from me the knowledge of the memories, learning, the decisions I have made. (How is "me" different from "my awareness"?)


Laying in bed for a few minutes after the dream, I thought of my brother and wished I had his character trait that would help be a more responsible smoker. I thought to pray for that trait in myself. I thought to ask David, my brother, in my prayer. And then a new thought came to me: Pray to your Friends. I decided that I would pray to my friends as a deeper way to be friends with them.

This is not "Pray For Your Friends". This is "Pray To Your Friends". Pray to your friends as if they have gifts of sprit for you. Pray to them to be in your heart. Pray to them to give you guidance, love, support. Pray to them to tell them how you feel about them, about their lives, about your life, your problems. Pray to your friends because you love them. Pray to them to be with them now.

Why shouldn't we pray to our friends? We are each a spiritual being, an energetic being. We know that our thoughts, our intentions, and our fears create or alter the events of our lives. We know of documented cases when people communicated with living and dead people through no accepted physical means.

What will happen if one person prays to another? What if I pray to my mother to be in my heart? Have I violated some moral code that we should only pray to God? (I feel twinges of this moral code.) If so, we need to examine this moral. Is there anything wrong with wanting my mother in my heart? Of course not, she belongs there. Is there anything wrong with direct intuitive communication between my mother and I? Of course not.

Imagine your sense of connection and well-being if you prayed to your friends and family and felt that they heard and responded to you. Imagine making them a living part of your own psyche.


It seems to me that when I pray to God, I am praying to my own higher self. [Nit-picky fundamentalist types will get uncomfortable with this statement: "Does he me that god is in him? or that he is god?"] We know that in each of us there is a Self with is more wise, more all-knowing and more creative that the self we struggle with, through, and for each day. Prayer is just a request from the struggling self to the super-Self to enable "Self" in "self".

Who is "self" that asks itself (as "Self") for assistance? How is it that our being is not whole or complete. How is it that I don not know myself? How is it that I want to be more or different and can not do or be what I want?

First written Sat, Feb 20, 1999
Last published Wed, Jun 2, 1999